With The Slightest Touch: Why Rogue Matters to Me as A Gay Man

by Nicholas DiSabatino

With the recent release of Brian Wood and Oliver Copiel’s  X-Men #1 with an all-female cast (featuring Storm, Kitty Pryde (aka Shadowcat), Rogue, Rachel Grey, Psylocke, and Jubilee), I’m reminded of how relatable some of these women are to me. Like many children of the 90s I was drawn to the X-Men through Fox’s animated TV show. But if I could pick one member of the X-Men who resonated with me the most it would have to be Rogue.

It wasn’t just because she had an awesome power set (flight, super strength, invulnerability) or that she said ridiculous things like “You look as nervous as a long-tailed cat in a room full of rocking chairs” in that cool Blanche Dubois-like drawl provided by the great voice actress Lenore Zann, it was because Rogue suffered not just as an outsider, but because of her inability to touch someone without irrevocable damage. This fear of intimacy and its repercussions is something many gay men, myself included, have struggled with our entire lives.

Rogue’s (traumatizing) first kiss

Created in 1981 by Chris Claremont and Michael Golden, Rogue started off as a villain working with her stepmothers Mystique and Destiny to make Carol Danvers’s (aka Ms. Marvel) life a living hell and then single-handedly trashed the Avengers and the X-Men on more than one occasion, before begging Professor X and the other X-Men to take her in to help her control her powers. She wasn’t met with approval. All of the X-Men threatened to quit and it was only till she threw herself in the line of fire and saved Wolverine and his fiancée that they even began to give her a chance.rogue mystique

Rogue’s gone through various incarnations throughout the years in both comics and visual media from the headstrong tomboy type of the Chris Claremont years to the Goth girl in X-Men Evolution to Anna Paquin’s fragile, timid rendition in the X-Men movies, to the endless soap opera romance with Gambit in the 1990s, to the recent power-controlled, independent woman of Mike Carey’s X-Men: Legacy, and now as the angry, brash member Rick Remender’s Uncanny Avengers.

Yet every incarnation is based off of one character trait—her desperate need to be loved, to be touched, and to be approved of. It’s something I could relate to growing up as a young gay man in Ohio.

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Like Rogue, I felt like an outsider in my small hometown, going to a Catholic high school during the Bush years, without any other gay people to talk to. Resorting to the sordid world of internet dating, I made countless bad choices just in the name of finding some kind of physical and emotional intimacy. Like Rogue, I hungered to be touched, yet also had to wade in the potential risks of STI’s and HIV, both possible scary consequences from having multiple partners. Rogue’s power is unique because while she gains something from physical contact (either in the form of abilities, powers, memories), she could also possibly put someone into a coma, or even death from too prolonged contact.

This idea that death is a possible side effect from intimacy is all too common knowledge in the gay world (and was especially prevalent in the 1980s with the onslaught of AIDS), but one we risk from having unprotected sex.  In Rogue’s early days before she joined the X-Men, she felt an almost insatiable need to touch someone—to absorb their powers, to feel anything outside of a gloved hand, and I could relate with this when I first became aware of my sexuality and acted on it.

Like Rogue, I needed to learn control and to value myself enough to resist instant gratification and wait for something more substantial.  It wasn’t an overnight process and I still made mistakes along the road. However, a lesson I needed to learn (and one I think all gay men could benefit from) is that the power of touch shouldn’t be taken for granted—it carries with it both physical and emotional ramifications.

Rogue finally has control of her powers, and yet instead of jumping into a relationship with her either of her two off-again, on-again boyfriends Magneto or Gambit, she decided to make the refreshing choice of being alone. Rogue is a resilient character, who has grown over the years into a more self-assured woman, who calls on intimacy on her own terms. It’s something I think we can all aspire to, sugah.

Rogue in Brian Wood and Olivier Coipel’s X-men #1


Nicholas DiSabatino has an MA from Emerson College, and has been previously published in Blast Magazine. As the publicity assistant to Beacon Press, he always brings his own sassy Rogue-like charm to the workplace. 


6 thoughts on “With The Slightest Touch: Why Rogue Matters to Me as A Gay Man”

  1. I want to say how much I really enjoyed this piece on Rogue and how much you can identify with her in relation to your experience as a gay man. Beautifully written. I only found out about X-Men through the Fox cartoon series too, and one of my favorite X-Men out of all the ones in the series has always been Rogue, along with Jean Grey.

    It always struck me how painful it would be to have a power like Rogue’s. It may have its advantages against enemies, but when it comes to wanting to express love and affection with a loved one, you wouldn’t be able to because of the fear of hurting or killing someone. It’s more of a nightmare than a blessing. As humans we all crave love and connection. We can’t help it. It makes us who we are. As you said, we have to learn not to take something as simple as a touch for granted. Rogue truly embodies that message in spades.

  2. Thanks so much for your thoughtful comment! I love the mythology behind Rogue…for me, she’s up there with the other two great southern heroines—Scarlett O’Hara and Blanche Dubois.

  3. You forgot to mention how, when rogue joined the xmen against EVERYONES wishes (except chuck) carol danvers kicked her ass with one punch and sent her zooming out past the moon. Rogue is cool, dont get me wrong..but shes ALMOST as overexposed as wolverine, and thats a bad thing

  4. Rogue has always been my favorite superhero for all of the reasons you mentioned. I can’t believe I finally found an article written by an openly gay man written about her. I always wanted to do so myself, but just never got the gumption (I’m sure that’s a word she would use) to do so, as it meant I would have to expose my own painful memories. Although, unlike Rogue, mine weren’t stolen from others — they were one’s I created. As with you, the 90’s Fox animated series which featured her is what brought her existence to my awareness in the first place, & I was hooked on her ever since. She was the only reason I watched the show and bought comics. After having “lived” a little, and being diagnosed with HIV on the heels of graduating from college, feeling like my life was over before it had ever began, I identified with her more than I ever thought was possible . . . or cared to. Thanks for the article.

  5. By the way, Rogues ONLY mutant power is to absorb memories, skills and abilities..anything ELSE she can do has been stolen. She wasn’t super strong, able to fly, or invulnerable at all…she stole those from Carol danvers..Ms Marvel, and because of that, in the process..destroyed one of the bestcharacters Marvel hard in a long time. Carol was never the same after that, being abducted by the Brood and experimented on, becoming Binary, losing her connection with the White Hole and her Binary powers, then spiralling into alcoholism and going thru several names in the process ending up ridiculously as Captain Marvel

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